Erase Conflict

Over my life I have been guilty of making folks mad. Sometimes I didn’t realize it and others, sadly I knew exactly what I was doing.

As a minister now I find myself a little more grown up in how I think and act. However, in my job I find that it is not all that uncommon that something I said or did has upset someone. What makes things tough is most of the time I’m the last person that knows this and I’m told that “they” are mad at me from someone else.

I have a few way I handle these situations.

  1. I don’t discuss “they” with other people. I simply tell the folks who share that “they” are mad to let them know I have an open door and open phone policy.
  2. If I feel I have offended someone (Church or life) I go to them face to face and have a discussion. This always ends in clarity and a good nights sleep.
  3. When in discussion I never go in on the defense, odds are I have done something and I own my part. this is a quick defuser.
  4. Be willing to resolve the issue and move forward. Relationships don’t need to end over pride.
  5. If the person doesn’t want to talk I simply give space.

I have been blessed to have folks who have forgiven me for my immaturity. In fact one of them is one my best friends in the entire world.

I’m too old and life is too short to worry about things that a phone call or quick visit can handle.

 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13

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